How many times have we seen people who go about their lives and seem to be the very epitome of confidence, and later we find out that they themselves were the victims of low self esteem, intimidation and insecurity? Everything that we thought was confidence was really just a defense mechanism for hiding how they really felt. There is a simple reason for that! True boldness only comes from spending time with God and His Word.
I have known many people that have hidden there insecurities. I have been around actors, singers, dancers and all types of performers. I have been in the entertainment industry, professionally, for the past 10 years. Most of those people are so insecure in their own skin that the only way they can cope with things, is to perform for people and put on a fake persona. They don’t know who they really are and they keep trying to find their validity in what other people think about them. It is an endless cycle that leads to drugs, alcohol and sex much of the time. What they are truly missing out on is finding out what their creator and Lord thinks about them, and that only comes from the Word of God.
You see, the Word of God isn’t simply a book of stories; it is a manual and a guide on how to live a successful life. God in His grace gave us examples of people who lived according to His Word and examples of people who didn’t. We are supposed to look at His Word as guidelines of what we should and shouldn’t do. When we find out how the creator of the entire universe backs us when we live the way He has shown us to live, then we can really live in confidence and boldness.
Boldness is a by-product of knowing who you are. And we can only truly know who we are by knowing where we came from. We have to learn from others who have been in similar situations and done the right or wrong thing. We can then look at those examples and make the choices we need to make. Here is the best part though, when we do things God’s way, then we have Him backing our every decision. When we truly seek out what He would have us do, then we can rest in the confidence that everything will turn out for the best. Even if things seem impossible, we see in the Word that God is above anything that is impossible. In Matthew 19:26 Jesus says,
“With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.”
When we truly realize that we are His children, and that only comes from accepting what Jesus did at the cross, then we really grasp who we are and where we came from. We then know who our Father is, we know who our true family is, and we have a place to go to when we feel the pressures in life. When we spend time with God and His Word we have the answers that have eluded us. If we rely on our own intellect and understanding, we will always fail. Proverbs 14:12 says,
“There is a way which seems right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.”
If we rely on God’s intellect and understanding, we will always triumph. You have to spend time with Him and in His Word to gain that wisdom and understanding.
Boldness and confidence also come when you know something works. You may have confidence in a chair to support your weight. You have that confidence because you have experience with chairs. It would be a shock to you if you were to sit down and the chair would break underneath you. You see, your experience can dictate what you have confidence in or not. It is the same way with God. You have to develop in His way of doing things and His way of living to have boldness and confidence with Him. That starts by trusting that God’s Word is God talking directly to you. Then when you follow what He is telling you to do, you get on the path towards a victorious life in Him. When you spend the time to stay in Him and His Word, then you can truly live a bold and confident life, knowing that you will have the victory no matter what you may face. You will see that God’s Word works and that He will always be there right beside you. And when you truly develop in that, by spending much time with God and His word, then and only then will you live a bold and confident life.